Marriage is an institution created by God. It is a covenant relationship established by mutual vows between a man and a woman united by God. Permanent unity in marriage is possible in Christ and is demanded of Christ's disciples who are married.
Interest of the Church
We care about marriage and the future success of those married within our church and those married by our pastors. We desire that marriage ceremonies will be in harmony with God's Word.
Teaching of Scripture
We believe marriage to be a sacred covenant entered into by a man and a woman in the presence of God. Marriage between a husband and wife is characterized by a commitment to each other before the Lord. The marriage relationship in Scripture is characterized as:
- exclusive (forsaking all others)
- mutual (becoming one flesh)
- permanent (till death do us part)
To marry in the Lord means to marry a person who is a Christian (2 Corinthians 6:14). A Christian is someone who knows Jesus Christ to be his/her Saviour and Lord, and is able to demonstrate that he/she is committed to living in accordance with the teachings of God's Word. This demonstration of commitment includes maintaining sexual purity and living apart from his/her intended spouse (Ephesians 5:3). Sexual intimacy is a gift from God intended only for married couples.
A wedding ceremony is ordinarily a worship service for the purpose of expressing gratitude to God for his gifts. It is also a celebration of the promises of marriage as an expression of Christian commitment and faith.
Role of the Church
If marriage is to be pleasing in the sight of God, those who enter into this covenant of life must share a common commitment to the Lord of Life.
We require that couples spend sufficient time with the pastor, or another Christian counsellor, in pre-marriage counselling. This should consist of a marriage encounter weekend and/or several pre-marriage sessions with the pastor.
The purpose of these pre-marriage sessions is to explore some of the issues that often lead to confusion and distress in marriage. These will include, but are not limited to:
- the central role of Christ in marriage
- financial matters
- communication in marriage
- expectations of spouses
- sexual intimacy
- church membership, attendance and involvement
- conflict resolution
We are committed to encouraging couples to grow in their faith in Jesus Christ as Saviour and Lord, and to develop an active relationship in a Christian Church.
Individuals who have experienced divorce may be asked to undergo professional Christian counselling or a comparable program prior to their marriage together with their new intended spouse.